I broke up with social media. Seriously. For 10 days (as part of my #30daysofme challenge), I decided to take a break from social media.
No blogs, vlogs… NOTHING.
My husband and I went on vacation for 10 days which included a 5-day trip to Palm Springs where we went completely dark… We didn’t even open our laptops or iPads. I even turned off ALL the notifications on my phone.
This may not sound like a big deal, but for someone who has built a business online and utilizes social media as her number one marketing tool… this is a MEGA big deal. What prompted me to take my #30daysofme challenge was the fact that I was feeling depleted. Social media played a big role in that feeling of depletion. For those of you who know me, you know that you can always find me online. I have a horrible habit of responding to everything right away, and I have a huge obsession with posting multiple times per day. I live online. It’s comfortable to me. But taking time off social media became a necessity that I had put off for far too long. It was finally time.
Throughout my 10 days offline, I learned a lot. I learned that in order to be present, I had to BE present… without my phone. I had to learn how to enjoy each moment without feeling the need to share it with the world. What this created was a much more intimate vibe throughout our time off. I was truly present. It felt like it was just me, my husband, and nothing else. It was so incredibly refreshing to experience time off like that… and it was such a huge realization for me. When we unplug, we enjoy the true essence of each and every single moment.
I also noticed something else… Whether we were at the pool, at a restaurant, or walking down the street, I noticed crowds of people hunched over their phones like zombies. It didn’t matter if they were with a group of people… they all did it! And that’s when I realized… “OMG! That’s what I look like!”
The bittersweet reality of social media is that it can bring us together, and it can break us down.
It’s crazy to think that as a society, we’ve become tethered to our phones. And that got me thinking…
Why DO we use social media? Take a peek…
We’ve all been guilty of this at some point in our social media lives. Seeking ‘likes’, comments, followers… let’s be honest, it happens! Even I’m guilty of this one. Social media becomes this obsessive compulsive habit that adds fire to our self-worth by validating that what we have to say and share IS in fact ‘likable’. Be careful of this type of usage because this is a sure-fire way to deplete your sense of worthiness.
We see this every single day… People using social media to enhance their ego’s. Showing off is never a good look, yet people still do this. The majority of people who do this, do it because deep down inside they need to feel better about themselves. They put people down, they post passive-aggressive updates, and they post photo’s that totally inflate the reality of their situations. It’s a horribly negative habit that is based out of a need to feel good about themselves. Whether it’s sheer narcissism or just a complete lack of confidence… it’s still a negative use of social media.
Whether it’s fishing for compliments, or fishing for sympathy… people are doing this on social media. Despite how annoying it may feel to see this, you have to breathe a little compassion into these types of situations. The reasons why people fish for compliments and sympathy are because they’re not receiving it in other places. Some may call them attention-seekers, but even that deserves some compassion. Instead of throwing a fit of disgust, send a little love their way.
Social media offers the ultimate gift of being able to connect with people all across the globe. We can meet people that we would never be able to meet without being online, and we can keep in touch with our family and friends without leaving our desks. Because of social media, I have the ability to keep in touch with my family across the globe, and that is amazing!
INSPIRATION & MOTIVATION
Using social media for inspiration and motivation is becoming increasingly popular. People are finally waking up and realizing that this incredible online world CAN be used for good. These online platforms can be used to spread messages of positivity, hope, and love… inspiring and motivating others to do the same. This is my ultimate goal with social media… To inspire and motivate people to live their best lives, and to breed more love, compassion, and positivity into our world. I absolutely love seeing all the good on social media… the inspiring quotes, the motivating messages, and the authentic stories. It’s a sign that our world is finally waking up to the power of positivity. I consider this to be the ULTIMATE use of social media… Social media for good.
So ask yourself… Why do YOU use social media? And how are you currently using it?
I challenge you to take some time off social media. Whether it’s 24 hours off, or an entire weekend or week… Just do it. You owe it to yourself to enjoy some intimacy between you and the world around you. Take that time to be truly present in your life and see what comes up for you. What lessons will you learn? What realizations will you make? Take this challenge and then update me in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!
Ruby Fremon is a Transformational Life Coach, Energy Healer, and Self-Love Advocate. She helps women boost their self-worth and put an end to self-destructive behaviors so they can experience happiness, gain confidence, and attract love. Ruby combines her love for the metaphysical with her passion for coaching. Crystals, Tarot, and channeling messages are all part of what makes her life-changing coaching programs unique.
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