Stepping Back | Ruby Fremon

In a world that constantly pushes us to move forward, it can feel wrong to even fathom taking a step back. But sometimes… it’s needed. We can become so fixated on our difficulties, that we become blind to all possible opportunities. We fear that feeling of being stuck so much, that we force ourselves to continue moving. We neglect our needs and shove feelings under the rug. It’s a sickness that’s plaguing our society. Continuous momentum is only healthy when we take the time to address our needs.

When we begin to feel as though our difficulties are consuming us, that’s a good time to take a step back. Think about it… At this point, you’ve lost all momentum anyways because your mind is preoccupied with worries. When you force yourself to push through these worries, you don’t accomplish much. You become ‘busy’ with things that don’t really fulfill any needs or goal. You become less productive and yet your schedule becomes more and more full. And your feelings? You’re neglecting them because they just don’t feel good.

Sound familiar?
This is the sickness we need to end… and we can only end it if we’re willing to take a step back.

I found myself in a difficult situation with my health this year. In August I was diagnosed with a tumor (benign) near my ovary and it was extremely tough for me to digest the information. After numerous appointments, we decided that surgery was the best option. On top of that, I had been physically ill due to this tumor for 4 months prior and my symptoms were just getting worse. I knew in my heart that I needed to step away from my business, but I was incredibly scared to do so. I had gained such great momentum this year and I didn’t want to lose it. But by pushing myself through this, I was only making myself more sick. Not only was I dealing with physical ailments, but now my emotional well-being was taking a toll. I thought I was giving my business 100% of my effort, but I wasn’t. I was depleting my energy. I decided to take a step back. The decision wasn’t easy, but I knew in my heart that it was what I needed. I am so grateful I gave myself permission to step backwards, because within that step, I’ve regained the energy I need to move forward.

When you give yourself permission to step backwards, you’re creating space for you to heal. You create the time you need to recalibrate, reground, and reconnect to your needs. In reality, when you take that step back, you’re actually making it easier to move forward.

Here are three reasons why taking a step back will actually help you move forward:


You’ll see the full picture.

When you’re walking up to a wall, you’ll eventually hit it. You can see the small section of wall in front of you, but you see no way around it. If you were to step back away from the wall, you’d see the entire wall… you might even see the opening in the wall a few feet away. But you’d only see it IF you stepped back to view the full picture.

If you’re too close to your difficulties, it can be tough to find a solution. Take a step back. See the full picture. That’s how you’ll gain sight of possible solutions.


You’re giving yourself a much-needed break.

Exhaustion is a real thing. When you are in continuous motion, you can easily run into exhaustion. Trying to push through when you feel depleted of your energy is pointless… you’ll achieve nothing. Give yourself the break you deserve. Throw FOMO (fear of missing out) out the window and take the time you need to replenish your energy. You require energy to work through your problems effectively, so take that step back and do what you need to do to refuel.


You’re prioritizing you.

Self-love isn’t a privilege, it’s necessary. If you continue to push through and remain in continuous motion without tending to your needs, you’re actually depleting your energy. For some reason, it’s easy to justify work over our personal well-being… but without our well-being, how can we expect ourselves to deliver our highest work? And how can we expect others to respect our needs if we ourselves are not? We can’t. Prioritize you. Prioritize your needs. Take a step back to care of you, and others will too.


Sometimes we have to take a step back in order to move forward. We have to be willing to put an end to our cycle of continuous motion so we can gain momentum. We have to stop being ‘busy’ so we can be productive. And we have to prioritize what we need in order to heal and deliver our highest work.


Have you experienced the benefits of taking a step back? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

Ruby Fremon (@iamruby)

Ruby Fremon is a Transformational Life Coach, Energy Healer, and Self-Love Advocate. She helps women boost their self-worth and put an end to self-destructive behaviors so they can experience happiness, gain confidence, and attract love. Ruby combines her love for the metaphysical with her passion for coaching. Crystals, Tarot, and channeling messages are all part of what makes her life-changing coaching programs unique. What makes Ruby a truly dynamic Coach and Healer, is her ability to blend together practicality with spirituality. This fusion helps her clients create massive life shifts that stick.

Ruby’s work is one that is driven by purpose. After hitting rock-bottom, she realized that she had the tools within her to create change. From a life of destruction to a life of love—Ruby is a reflection of her work, and she is dedicated to helping other souls create positive transformation in their lives.

Ready to create a life you love? Apply for a complimentary Soul Clarity Session with Ruby HERE.

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